We are in the holiday season. The season when people spend time with their family and friends. It is a time to celebrate traditions. It is also the time of year when you realize that your aging loved one may not be doing as great as they said they were. You notice changes in someone, such as limitations to their physical or cognitive condition, that you didn’t see previously. You may need to have a conversation with the person. It can feel overwhelming, but don’t worry; STAGES is here to help you.
Holidays – What do you do when noticing a decline?
The knee-jerk reaction may be to schedule a doctor’s appointment, but you may want to look into other options. The first thing you need to evaluate is their living situation. Keep in mind that falls are common for adults 65+. Therefore, is it safe for your aging loved one to stay at home? Most people want to age in place, so the question becomes, should you bring in a caregiver? Should you look into a reverse mortgage to help pay expenses? If that does not look like an option, investigate your housing options. If all this seems overwhelming, consider consulting an Aging Care Manager, or if you do not need all their services, then consult a Senior Placement Specialist. The point is that there are professionals you can consult to help you figure out these questions.
What are some other things to consider?
It would be best to ensure the person has all their legal documents. That includes a Power of Attorney and Medical Power of Attorney document. Getting these legal documents in place does not mean they go into effect immediately. Power of Attorney goes into effect once the person steps down or is deemed incapacitated. In addition, it would be beneficial if they had their will in place and looked into establishing a trust, although trusts do not apply to everyone. Establishing legal documents while the person is of sound mind secures the person’s wishes. It lets everyone know the documents are in place, and it’s a way of starting the conversation to ensure everyone understands the person’s wishes. Anyone assigned to a legal role has a fiduciary duty to that person, so start the conversation.
Should I get involved with their medical?
It’s essential to understand one’s medical status. Therefore, please work with the person on learning their diagnosed medical condition(s) and what prescribed and un-prescribed medication/vitamins they are taking, including dosage and regime. Most importantly, know their allergies. Also, learn their doctors, including names, contact information, and what they are treating. It may be beneficial to accompany the person to their medical appointments, but that depends on the person and your situation.
Most people need to realize they have choices regarding medical treatment. Granted, there may be limited choices because of one’s insurance, but you still have choices. What does this mean? You can choose which doctor you want to see within your network. You have the choice of which caregiving agency you use. You have the choice of which home health agency or skilled nursing agency you use. You also have the choice of which durable medical equipment company you use. The point is that it’s okay to ask questions, and it’s okay to say you would prefer working with someone else.
Enjoy your holiday season!
STAGES wants you to know there are professionals to help you and your aging loved one.